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Autism COVID Friendly Christmas

Most of us welcome the change to our daily routine that Christmas brings. We enjoy seasonal foods and drinks. Seeing friends and family. Giving and receiving presents. Seeing lights twinkle, hearing carols sung, and even joining the throngs of shoppers in town but this year more than ever things will be quite different.

However, all of those things above can cause sensory overload for children on the autism spectrum, leading to discomfort or even distress. And that can be a source of discomfort and distress for the people around them.

If you want to make December autism-friendly, you may have to shelve the idea of a traditional, Instagram-ready Christmas. But with some planning and flexibility, you can make it a happy holiday. Here’s how.

Planning ahead

Christmas advent calendar
  • Give your child a visual aid to help them count down to the big day. Children with autism crave predictability. They also sometimes have trouble with the concept of time. A minute might seem like an hour, and a week is hard to imagine. Advent calendars are perfect for this!
  • Make a calendar for the season, showing all the changes they can expect. December usually brings changes to your normal weekly and daily routines. Your calendar could include things like when the decorations begin to go up, when the tree is taken down, when school starts again.
  • Talk about Christmas.  Discuss all the things that make it different and special. Read books about Christmas and look at photos of your children taken at past Christmases. You could show your child our special video from Santa to reassure them that he will still be visiting this year.
  • Make a social story. These are short, descriptions of a situation, event or activity. They’re usually illustrated and include specific information about what to expect in that situation and why. For advice on how to make them, ask us for our leaflet, or see the NAS website. A social story about Christmas Day could include a schedule of what will happen that day, opening presents and foods they will eat.
  • Get them involved. Somehow new things are less intimidating when you’ve helped plan and prepare them. What would your child enjoy helping with? Writing cards? Decorating the tree? Making food? Wrapping gifts? Thinking up a menu?
  • Try to spend some quality time with Siblings. Christmas is a time for all of the family and it might be nice to set aside some time to spend with your other children. This could be when your child with autism is occupied with another activity.

Routines and schedules

Christmas clock
  • Keep to your usual daily routines as much as you can to maintain predictability. People on the autism spectrum need to know what to expect. Daily routines help them to stay calm.
  • Make schedules for non-routine days in whatever format works best for your child. Remember that you’ll have to stick to it though if you want to avoid distress and meltdown, so make it achievable.
  • Include a favourite daily Christmas activity in your child’s routine and do it at the same time each day, like switching on the tree lights, or blowing out the candles.
  • Remind your child what’s coming up at regular intervals. First, we’ll do this, then we’ll do that. Tell them how long it will take.
  • Use a timer or clock so your child knows how long each activity will last. Don’t extend the timer after you’ve set it. Not even secretly. They need to be able to trust it.
  • Make sure your child knows about changes to the routine well in advance.
  • When you have a routine that works, stick with it! Finding a Christmas routine for your family might take a trial and error over a few years. And yours might end up looking odd to others. For example, you might spread out opening presents over a few days. Or you might only have your tree up for one day. But if it works, that’s great and you know you can do it again.
  • Don’t overschedule your child. While it’s tempting to pack as much fun into your time off as you can, it can all be too much when you have autism. Make sure they have plenty of space between activities. And provide lots of transition time and down time.

Visitors and visiting, respecting “bubble” guidelines

  • Talk to friends and family before visits in your designated bubbles.  Tell them what your plan for the day or the visit is. In these difficult times with such restrictions it will help everyone to have a nicer day in the end.
  • Ask people to phone ahead before visiting you so that the whole family knows when to expect you.
  • Show your child photos of the people he/she will be seeing beforehand.
  • Give your child plenty of notice of transitions to new activities. For example, give a ten-minute warning before dinner.
  • Have a quiet space in your house that your child can retreat to when it all gets too much. This gives your child the opportunity to escape when they need to.
  • Give your child a job to do if they need to be kept occupied. Having something else to focus on can distract them from the stress that the festive season may bring.

Food and sensory issues

mug hot chocolate cookies christmas lights
  • Try holiday foods in advance. That way you can see what your child likes and doesn’t like. It can also give you a chance to discover any cooking smells that may be too overpowering for your child.
  • Take your child’s favourite foods with you if your bubble allows you to eat outside of your home.
  • Let your child eat what they usually eat on Christmas Day if that will make them happier. If they are used to a sandwich and fruit for lunch, or the 25th falls on ‘chicken nuggets night’ then just go with that.
  • Maybe have a buffet instead of a traditional Christmas Dinner. That way everyone gets to eat the food they like, at their own pace.
  • Practice wearing ‘special clothes’ beforehand. A new outfit for Christmas day might feel all different and just not right. ‘Party’ clothes aren’t often very comfortable and children on the spectrum can be particularly sensitive to things like seams and scratchy fabrics. You might have a few dress rehearsals before the day.
  • Let your child wear their everyday clothes. Those old jogging bottoms and a favourite T-shirt are perfect Christmas outfits if they make your child feel more comfortable.
  • If your bubble visits another family home take something to help deal with the noise. This could be ear defenders, noise cancelling headphones, an iPod or earplugs.
  • Be aware of things that make loud noises, like Christmas crackers and party poppers. Consider not using them at all when your child is nearby or maybe give your child a warning before you use them.

Decorations

Child in Santa costume decorating tree
  • Consider not putting up all the decorations while your child is not at home. Coming home to find the house looking completely different could be very upsetting.
  • Decorate gradually. For example, put the tree up one day, and decorate it over a couple of days. You might want to add other things a bit at a time.
  • You might like to take a photo of what your house normally looks like and set a defined date of when the festive period will end.
  • Get your child to choose decorations and help you to put them up. They might find it easier to cope with their surroundings looking different if they made some of the changes themselves.
  • Avoid decorations that may be too stimulating or distracting. Flashing lights or having lots of things hanging from the walls or ceiling might just be too much for some. Although it might not feel as Christmassy to you, keeping it minimal just might help your child stay calm.
  • Consider decorating just one room in the house. Or keeping the twinkliest and noisiest things away from the areas your child uses every day.

Gifts

Christmas present
  • Your child might want to unwrap gifts gradually and this is ok. Opening lots of presents all at once on Christmas morning can be overwhelming. You could unwrap gifts in a timeframe that your child is comfortable with. That could be one or two presents at a time throughout Christmas day, or over a week or two. Remember you know them best!
  • Remember that some children with autism don’t like surprises. Although it may seem strange to you, you could let them know what’s in the gift before they unwrap it. You could wrap their gifts together with them, or even leave them unwrapped. – two suggestions could be that you wrap in cellophane or you wrap in plain paper and put a photo of the item inside on the paper. In that way if your child enjoys the act of unwrapping, they still get this without the added stress of the surprise.
  • Make gifts ready to play with before you wrap them. Lots of autistic children find it difficult to wait.
  • You could hide presents somewhere else until the big day. Seeing presents under the tree for days or even weeks before the 25th might be just too much for children with a poor concept of time.

And finally…

Christmas feet up
  • Take some time to relax and treat yourself. You deserve it! Christmas, is a time for the whole family to hopefully relax and enjoy themselves.
  • Try to get back to your normal schedule a few days before the new term starts so that the transition back to school is easier. Countdown using visual supports are a great way to do this.
  • If things go wrong, be okay with that being okay. Your child might get upset, upset others or refuse to take part and this is ok. If you know what went wrong and it’s fixable, then you can try to fix it next year. And if it isn’t, just let it go. There is no law that says you should do Christmas a certain way.
  • Celebrate the season your way. The holiday season is meant to be a time for fun and relaxation. If the things you have to do to make it fun and relaxing seem odd to other people, don’t mind them. There’s no official Christmas rule book.
  • Remember this is not a to-do list. Or a list of do’s and don’ts. These are simply suggestions – made by us. There’s more than one way to live a family life and equally more than one way to enjoy an ASD family Christmas.

We sincerely hope that your Christmas is as good as it can be in these difficult and unprecedented COVID times.

Merry Christmas

love Team Toby