Book Recommendations

The Team at the Toby Henderson Trust have made recommendations and suggestions of books that they have found really useful.  We are just setting this page up, so will be adding to it.  Please scroll down to the relevant section you require.  Take a look below and let us know if you have any other books that you would recommend.

Categories are as follows: 

Understanding Autism

Ten things book

Ten things every child with Autism wishes you knew (Revised in 2019) by Ellen Notbohm

 Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew: Revised and Updated: Ellen Notbohm, Veronica Zysk: Books

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The reason I jump by Naoki Higashida (good for older children & parents/carers)
This groundbreaking book, written by Naoki when he was only thirteen, provides some answers. Severely autistic and non-verbal, Naoki learnt to communicate by using a ‘cardboard keyboard’ – and what he has to say gives a rare insight into an autistically-wired mind.

The Reason I Jump: one boy’s voice from the silence of autism: Higashida, Naoki, Mitchell, David, Yoshida, Keiko: 9781444776775: Books

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A different kind of brilliant by Louise Cummins (aimed at 3 -11yrs)

Written by a Mom to help teach her son with autism to embrace his differences and recognize he is a different kind of brilliant.

A Different Kind of Brilliant: Cummins, Louise E: Books

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I see things differently by Pat Thomas  (Aimed at 4 – 8yrs sibling/classmates/family members)

This reassuring picture book explains what autism is in simple terms, helping children with siblings or classmates with autism understand what everyday life feels like from a child with autism’s perspective.

Autism: I See Things Differently (A First Look At): Thomas, Pat, Keay, Claire: 9780750289481: Books

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Can you see me?

By Libby Scott (Aimed at 9yrs +)

With diary entries written by eleven-year-old Libby Scott, based on her own experiences of autism, this pioneering book, has been widely praised for its realistic portrayal of autism.

The superhero brain by Christel Land (For young children)

This story speaks to children who have autism and explains to them what it means in a way that leaves them feeling empowered and able to make their dreams come true. 

This book is available in a format for either a girl or a boy. Both links below.

Boy – The Superhero Brain: Explaining autism to empower kids (boy): Land, Christel: 9781542887212: Books 

Girl – The Superhero Brain: Explaining autism to empower kids (girl): Land, Christel: 9781979870009: Books 


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When my worries are too big by Kari Dunn Buron (for young children)

Engaging and easy to read, this illustrated children s book is filled with opportunities for children to participate in developing their own self-calming strategies.

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A huge bag of worries by Virginia Ironside (For young children)

A reassuring picture book encouraging children to open up about their fears and anxieties to help manage their feelings. The perfect book to soothe worries during stressful times.

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Feelings and Emotions

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The incredible 5 point scale by Kari Dunn Buron (Ages 7-13yrs)

This clearly written book is an expanded and revised 2nd edition that shows children how to work at problem behaviour and move on to alternative positive behaviours. Assisting Students in understanding social Interactions and controlling their emotional responses.

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The colour monster by Anna Llenas (For young children)

A gentle exploration of feelings for young and old alike.

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Social Skills

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My mouth is a volcano by Julia Cook (Age 4+)

An empathetic approach to the habit of interrupting. This story helps teach children the value of respecting others by listening and waiting for their turn to speak.

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Will you be my friend? By Molly Potter (Young children)

 This book is both humorous and charming, and prompts children to discuss the idea of friendship with parents and peers.

Mental Health

What’s going on inside my head? By Molly Potter (Young children)

Perfect for starting conversations with children about their mental and emotional health.

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Things I want you to know when everything feels terrible (All ages)

Just fill in the blanks, and it transforms into the only book of its kind: a personalised, meaningful book (gift) for someone who is having a tough time. Nice way to show someone you care.

Things I Want You To Know When Everything Feels Terrible – Fill In The Love Journal | Spiffy (

Visual Support

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Stories that explain by Lynn McCann (For parents, carers & professionals)

A one-stop support guide to helping children understand social situations through stories. The book gives a concise explanation of the use of stories, why they are important, and advice on how to write/edit stories, including tips on how to present them. Comes with  accompanying CD.

Book my social stories

My social stories book by Carol Gray (for parents, carers & professionals.)

Contains over 150 Stories, and is illustrated throughout with line drawings, which form a visual counterpart to the text. A helpful introduction explains to parents and carers how to get the most out of the book.


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What is poo? By Katie Daynes (aimed at 3-6yrs)

Very First Lift-the-Flap Questions and Answers. What is poo? Does everyone do it? And where does it all go? Children can lift the flaps to find the answers in this surprisingly charming book.

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My puppy’s a poo magician by Melissa YAPP (Young children)

A story to help families start the conversation about the silent, confusing issues of constipation, stool withholding and encopresis.

My Puppy’s A Poo Magician: A story about a puppy who is scared to poo: YAPP, Mrs Melissa: 9798722001801: Books

Autistic Teens

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The loving push by Temple Grandin (for parents, carers & professionals)

Anyone who cares about a child or teen on the autism spectrum need this essential roadmap to prepare our youth for being successful adults in today’s world.

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All cats are on the Autism Spectrum by Kathy Hoopman (Older children & Teens)

This updated edition of the bestselling All Cats Have Asperger Syndrome provides an engaging, humorous, gentle introduction to autism.

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The superhero heart by Christel Land (Younger children)

This story speaks to children who are close to a child with autism and explains how we are all different to each other, and how the sibling has special powers, which help them in the trickier moments where the child might feel rejection or find it hard to deal with a meltdown. This book is available in a format for either a girl or a boy. Both links below.



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What about me? by Brennan & Mandy Farmer (Aimed at 4-8yr olds)

Having a sibling on the spectrum brings great joy. It also brings a flurry of emotions, challenges and questions. Written by a seven-year-old boy, “What About Me?” works through the day-to-day struggles and joys of being an autism sibling.


Grandparents guide to Autism spectrum disorder by Nancy Mucklow

This book serves as a practical guide to turning grandparents’ concern, confusion, and initial sadness for their grandchild with ASD into a relationship of acceptance, confidence and realistic expectations.

Sensory Processing

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Max and Me by Ines Lawlor (For parents/children & professionals)

Offers an explanation of how sensory information is processed using the analogy of a ‘modulator’, who living in the brain has the job of receiving messages from the senses and then deciding the best thing for the body to do. Once Max gets to know his modulator and how to work together with him, things start to go better for him. The workbook format is designed to allow children to reflect on the story and working together with an adult, get to know their own ‘modulator’.

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Understanding Your Child’s Sensory Signals: A Practical Daily Use Handbook by Angie Voss (For Parents and professionals.)

Sensory tools and strategies made simple for home, school, and in the community! Handbook includes over 210 of the most common sensory signals and cues your child may be giving you.


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All Dogs have ADHD by Kathy Hoopman (Young children +)

It explores a variety of traits that will be instantly recognisable to those who are familiar with ADHD. Charming colour photographs of dogs bring to life familiar ADHD characteristics such as being restless and excitable, getting easily distracted, and acting on impulse.

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The ADHD sibling challenge by Barton S.Herskovitz (Siblings.)

Using stories and exercises, kids learn to identify and manage their feelings about the challenges of living with a sibling with ADHD. Kids learn new coping skills to navigate the family environment more effectively.

Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)

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My daughter is not naughty by Jane Alison Sherwin (for parents & professionals)

Full of advice and support, and with a focus on understanding the child and how he or she sees the world, “this book will be of immeasurable value.”

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Can I tell you about pathological demand avoidance syndrome? By Ruth Fidler & Phil Christie (A guide for 7+ children, parents, friends, professionals.)

Issy an 11-year-old girl with pathological demand avoidance syndrome (PDA), invites readers to learn about PDA from her perspective, helping them to understand how simple, everyday demands can cause her great anxiety and stress. Issy tells readers about all the ways she can be helped and supported by those around her.

Autistic Girls

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 M is for Autism by The students in Limpsfield grange school (teen girls)

 A school for girls with Autism Spectrum Disorder and communication and interaction difficulties, M’s story draws on the real life experiences of teens with autism.

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The girl with the curly hair by Alis Rowe (Teen girls)

A book about the author’s experiences of growing up with Asperger’s Syndrome. 

The Girl with the Curly Hair – Asperger’s and Me eBook : Rowe, Alis: Books





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The Invisible string by Patrice Karst. (Young children)

Parents, educators, therapists, and social workers alike have declared The Invisible String the perfect tool for coping with all kinds of separation anxiety, loss, and grief.

Recommended and adopted by parenting blogs, bereavement support groups, hospice centres, foster care and social service agencies and educators.

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Let’s talk about when someone dies by Molly Potter (Young Children.)

This book uses clear, easy-to-understand language to answer complex questions about death and how a child might feel when someone dies.

Let’s Talk About When Someone Dies : Potter, Molly, Jennings, Sarah: Books